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Julie Menanno
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Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
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“If you were lucky enough to grow up with adults who were relatively emotionally savvy, they were able to recognize your felt sense of emotional pain associated with distress and help you learn to put words to the experience, just as they taught you how to connect hunger the feeling with hunger the word.”
― Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
― Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
“having attachment needs doesn’t make you “needy.” Clients frequently ask me, “Isn’t it codependent to expect my partner to meet all of these needs for me?” But the answer is no. Met attachment needs (and we’re only talking about met attachment needs, not every single need a person has) are simply what’s necessary to feel close to another person. They don’t make you whole, but they do make a loving relationship whole. That doesn’t mean your partner has to love you before you can love yourself. Our partners’ love can help us love ourselves, or help us expand upon the love we already have for ourselves, but their love can’t make us love ourselves—that needs to be happening independent of them.”
― Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
― Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
“keep in mind that your parents’ behavior did not need to be intentional for you to develop an insecure attachment style. Most parents want the best for their children, but if one or both of your parents didn’t have secure attachments of their own, they were limited in their ability to create an emotionally secure environment in which you could emotionally thrive.”
― Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
― Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
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