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136 pages, Hardcover
First published October 12, 2021
“Maybe our desire for the past grows after the decay of our present.”
“Maybe all of our memories are tied to the memories of others.”
“In some ways, being born Chinese in America means not being born at all”
“A writer lives in an infinity of days, time without end, ploughed under.”
"If I press the button,I imagine the large hot water dispensers common in Asia. We don't want to know our family's history, but we must for it is all around our lives.
hot water will burn me.
The water is history.
I don't press it but why
am I still soaking wet? p.9 Dear Grandmother.
"Working on these letters and listening to the interviews made me think that grief and memory are related. That memory, trying to remember, is also an act of grieving. In my mother's case, sometimes forgetting or silence was a way to grieve lost lands and to survive. In my case, trying to know someone else's memories even if it's through imagination and within silence, is also a form of grieving." p.144 Dear Reader
"At mother's funeral, a bony Chinese man said, Your mother was always a bit chubby. I was always worried about her health. As if her weight had caused her lungs to fail. He didn't mean any harm, just as Father never meant any harm. But harm is rarely about intention. I remember all the times aunties would say to me, You've lost weight. Or, You've gained weight. Stand up so we can see you better.
A month before Mother died, she was so frail. She had lost all the weight of seventy-four years. I don't think she was finally happy. She looked small and beautiful in a baggy old dress with blue flowers that she could finally fit into. I was secretly happy that she would never have to worry about her body again. That the weight of caring for father was gone, that the weight of her countries was gone, that she was finally the weight of light. p. 33 Dear Body
"I used to hate red.
The color of meat and
shame. Now I paint my
lips red so I don't disappear."p. 43 Dear L