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[Mod Announcement] Repeat violation of subreddit rules will lead to a ban
u/halfbloodprince07 avataru/halfbloodprince07
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First of all, I apologize on behalf of the moderators for not being responsive enough during the situation we had in this subreddit a few days ago. I’m not blaming the other moderators, because like me, I assume all of them have their own chores to take care of.

Frankly, I’m the newest addition so I usually stay away from stuff like this and let the senior mods handle it, but when I checked the mod queue yesterday (I logged in after months) , it was a dumpster fire. There were so many reports regarding breaking subreddit rules and verbally abusing cast members and subredditors. The main culprit had already been banned , I think one of the other moderators had done that. But there were other creeps who were still roaming free in the sub. I don’t judge people for being horny but there are NSFW subreddits for those kind of things. Also, no one, and I mean no one disrespects Phoebe in this sub! (Rachel and Monica too). But seriously, how much a scum you have to be constantly spamming with posts that degrade women, let alone celebrities? These people should be getting professional help.

So I went over the reports and deleted posts and comments that had broken the sub rules. Remember you are allowed to criticize a character (that too without calling them slurs) but not the actor/actress. Is that too hard to understand? And afterwards I checked post history of the users that kept spamming the sub and banned them. Some users who had violated rules once or twice got 1 week / 2 weeks ban while the other got permanent bans. Don’t harass the mods via alternative accounts, asking to overturn that. I made sure I checked the previous post and comment history before banning them. I’ve tried my best to check the reports, some of them were not breaking the rules at all (like memes), and this sub lacks memes imo, therefore I didn’t remove every reported post/comment. If you still have issues, please report them or if it’s too severe, reach out to moderators. And please don’t direct message me, because I’m not always logged in and if you send the message to moderators, chances are at least one of us would see that.

Friends is a sitcom that started airing almost 3 decades ago and while it might not always resonate with the cultural and ethical standards today, we can always get the positive points out of it and have civilized discussions about the show and the characters. This is a wholesome sitcom and therefore, I believe the subreddit too has to be like that. I’ve seen fan subreddits that allow assholes to run rampant but this one shouldn’t be like that. People (including me) love this show not just because of its humor element, but also it acts like a virtual friend who comforts us. So let’s keep the subreddit wholesome so that even the newcomers can enjoy it.

Also, no politics. Period. I don’t care if you’re left wing, right wing or Chicken wing, this isn’t the sub for that. For the love of God, if any of you started abusing fellow members or cast members, you too will be kicked out, because here in this subreddit we don’t allow sexist, misogynistic assholes. They can sod off.

Thank you.

Logic behind no family at events?
u/Hostelhumma avataru/Hostelhumma
• Logic behind no family at events?

I noticed some recurring family members don’t reappear at important events (Phoebe’s parents and brother do not come to her wedding and Rachel’s two sisters are not at her baby shower).

I get in a less famous show, this could easily be explained by the actors having better things to do but this was literally the biggest show on TV at the time, surely they would have all moved heaven and earth to be there?! And it would have made for a better and more realistic scene having those extra known faces there.

It just seems unrealistic and cheapens the scene that they’re not there - so what’s the explanation? Why didn’t the producers want them?

Chandler was a FAR better partner to Monica than she was to him
u/Rad_Boy1 avataru/Rad_Boy1
• Chandler was a FAR better partner to Monica than she was to him
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Idk if this is an unpopular opinion or not, and if its already been discussed to death (if so, i apologize for reviving it) but the way Monica treated Chandler sometimes wound up being far more cruel than funny.

A few examples:

Being so controlling, and shutting down his opinion without so much as a discussion (a good example of this would be the way he barely had a say in the wedding planning process)

Not standing up for him when other characters (often Phoebe) would mock or deride him

Getting her bra signed by another dude at Joey's soap opera party on top of forgetting to even tell him about the party in the first place

Tricking him into having sex with her by pretending she wasn't angry at him over smoking

Believe me, Chandler most definitely screwed up in the relationship a fair few times (the wedding picture fiasco, Tulsa), but I felt like he was a lot more loving and accepting of Monica's flaws than she was of his. If you disagree, feel free to let me know.